So you want to be more assertive? Then focus on your words, and your body.
For the words, stop saying “sorry”, “does that make sense”, “I think”, “just”, because they diminish you and your perspective. A new gmail plugin highlights words that undermine your message, to help you change the habit.
Work on your posture too, says Amy Cuddy. You can trick your brain into feeling self-assured – or not. Even hunching over your smartphone can subliminally lead to a feeling of reduced authority. Your mother’s advice to sit up straight and walk tall really will make a difference!
Try this: Don’t say ‘sorry’. Say ‘thank you’.